You should stay away from people who try to squash you (backstabbers, liars, deceivers, manipulators - they will always keep coming up with excuses to blame you for the lies they tell about you). Surround yourself with genuinely kind and honest people.
How about being the person you are instead of telling women they have to live up to someone else's expectations? Why when talking about being the woman you want to be are they always showing a picture? Are women only seen?