In a family where one or both of the parents function in a toxic pattern, the different family members often adopt certain set roles. Although the patterns can shift around a bit, there is usually a default setting. In this podcast Stephen Bach and Monkey will talk about some of these roles, how to identify them and what impact they have on the dynamic in a toxic family.

Different Roles in a Toxic Family

In a family where one or both of the parents function in a toxic pattern, the different family members often adopt different roles in a toxic family.

FlyingMonkey. Don't help anyone be mean to anyone else. Don't be a flying monkey. Your growth will be stunted.

Once a flying monkey, always a flying monkey…

When a narcissist tells you a tale in which they are the innocent victim of irrational monster . You are being recruited as a flying monkey.

Parental Alienator's rely on having a "target" for their own destructive behavior. For all the ex wives of Controlling, Narcissistic, Histrionic Husbands.

Real talk right there. I am always being told I "hurt" someone's feelings or I did this or that.like really STFU and get over your Damn feelings, trust me I have

Narcissistic mothers have no regard for the mental health of her own children, so what makes any man believe she has any regard for his?

It's very common for narcissistic mothers to have a GOLDEN CHILD / scapegoat dynamic going on. In short, one child in the family is the GOLDEN CHILD & one or more is the scapegoat.

The very existence of a scapegoat role in a family signals there is someone who is chronically avoiding responsibility for their actions. Gail Meyers, The Scapegoats of a Narcissistic Mother at http://scapegoatsofanarcissisticmother.blogspot.com/2014/08/5a-scapegoating-narcissist.html

The very existence of a scapegoat role in a family signals there is someone who is chronically avoiding responsibility for their actions

This is exactly the map of my family dynamic. Everything here happened or attempted to happen. Unfortunately not all of us are born into unconditional love

Narcissism As A Family Disease: The Scapegoat Dynamic ***The best diagram that depicts the dynamics of a narcissistic parent and the outcome of favoritism with one child over another(s)

Not sorry.

Changing patterns and family dynamics. Sorry, but we will not be playing pin the tail on the Scapegoat anymore!

Wolf in Sheep's clothing Lies Liars Lying Scapegoat

& convinced them I am someone I am not. Thanks for not getting to know me before judging me. It speaks volumes about you, not me.

Sadly, not all addicts take responsibility. Blaming you, throwing you under the bus, leaving you to fend for yourself, using you as a whipping post for their anger... is not ok!

Sadly, not all people take responsibility. Blaming you, throwing you under the bus, leaving you to fend for yourself, using you as a whipping post for their anger. walk away.

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